Hello Dear One! Yes, you!
I reach out to you with both hands, and hold your hands in mine, and look in your eyes with deep welcome! I am so glad you are here!
I know the challenges and the joys of raising a son with autism. Yes, I said, “joys”.
If you are like many of the parents I have met over the years, then you are all too familiar with the pain of raising a child who can’t connect with you. All too often autism is a prison and you lack the key to enter and connect with your child. There have been many times you want to give up, walk away and get a new life without the burdens of autism. At other times, you feel obsessed with finding a way to help your child function in our world.
But you also know very rare and precious moments, when something sparks a glow of light in your child’s eyes. For a moment, you see beyond the autism, to who your child really is. It’s like the bars of the prison give way and you see the beauty of your child’s soul and the potential hidden there.
It’s likely that your family and friends have never seen that sparkle. That hurts too.
Or maybe you are one of the lucky one’s who’s child can somehow share their inner glow even in the midst of the autism, and other people can see it.
Either way, there are moments when you carry the torch for your child. You work with all your might helping your child to blossom and helping others to understand your child’s true worth. Helping a son or daughter with autism to blossom probably ranks as one of the biggest challenge of your life- even if you’re a CEO of a major corporation, an astronaut or a political figure.
Blossoming means different things to different parents- maybe blossoming means using picture symbol language, or maybe it means talking, or maybe it means becoming independent, or maybe it means your child finally found a best friend or maybe you don’t even know what “blossoming” would look like . But you want to nourish that little spark you see dancing in your child’s eyes. Maybe you know just what I am talking about, but you gave up long ago. Obviously if your still reading there is a place your heart still aches to reach your child, even your adult child, and let him/her know how much you truly value him/her.
Well, I know what you’re going through. My son Jaison is now 27 years old, and when he was born, autism was 1 in 10,000 children born. Today it’s one in 68 births. We often hear the term “founding father”, will I am a “founding mother” of the journey you are taking with your little one. Through some grace, Jaison found a way to “blossom”. Now when people meet him, they not only see his severe challenges, they also see his “sparkle”.
Would you like to come along on the journey that Jaison and I have traveled? Would you like to ask us just how we did it?
Therapies and techniques for working with children with autism are rampant, and this is not just another approach to solving the challenges of autism. It’s something else. It’s about how to nurture the blossom from a deeper place of honor for your child’s heart. It’s about a quantum leap in insight and understanding that you can take that has the potential to open an unexpected door for your child.
Although Jaison doesn’t speak with his mouth, he typed a play called “Dreams Of An Autistic Playwright.” The play had a staged reading at Colorado University and has been performed by a community theater. We videotaped the performance and recently edited the footage into a DVD of the play. We invite you to see the DVD trailer for the play and order the DVD here.
Jaison also wrote the words to a song is called “Imagine You!”. Listen here.
This blog will be a place where we share many things. But first we will be sharing excerpts from the book that Jaison and I are writing about our journey called “More Than You Hoped For: The Unexpected Joy of Raising an Autistic Playwright. Please come along with us on this amazing journey!