Helping Your Child with Autism to Blossom!

Wooing at four years old
Wooing at four years old

Hello Dear One!  Yes, you!

I reach out to you with both hands, and hold your hands in mine, and look in  your eyes with deep welcome! I am so glad you are here!

I know the challenges and the joys of raising a son with autism. Yes, I said, “joys”.

If you are like many of the parents I have met over the years, then you are all too familiar with  the pain of raising a child who can’t connect with you. All too often autism is a prison and you lack the key to enter and connect with your child.  There have been many times you want to give up, walk away and get a new life without the burdens of autism. At other times, you feel obsessed with finding a way to help your child function in our world.

But you also know very rare and precious moments, when something sparks a glow of light in your child’s eyes. For a moment, you see beyond the autism, to who your child really is. It’s like the bars of the prison give way and you see the beauty of your child’s soul and the potential hidden there.

It’s likely that your family and friends have never seen that sparkle. That hurts too.

Or maybe you are one of the lucky one’s who’s child can somehow share their inner glow  even in the midst of the autism, and other people can see it.

Either way, there are moments when you carry the torch for your child. You work with all your might helping your child to blossom and helping others to understand your child’s true worth.  Helping a son or daughter with autism to blossom probably ranks as one of the biggest challenge of your life- even if you’re a CEO of a major corporation,  an astronaut or a political figure.

Blossoming means different things to different parents- maybe blossoming means using picture symbol language, or maybe it means talking, or maybe it means becoming independent, or maybe it means your child finally found a best friend or maybe you don’t even know what “blossoming” would look like . But you want to nourish that little spark you see dancing in your child’s eyes. Maybe you know just what I am talking about, but you gave up long ago. Obviously if your still reading there is a place your heart still aches to reach your child, even your adult child, and let him/her know how much you truly value him/her.

Well, I know what you’re going through. My son Jaison is now 27 years old, and when he was born, autism was 1 in 10,000 children born. Today it’s one in 68 births. We often hear the term “founding father”,  will I am a “founding mother” of the journey you are taking with your little one.  Through some grace, Jaison found a way to “blossom”. Now  when people meet him, they not only see his severe challenges, they also see his “sparkle”.

Would you like to come along on the journey that Jaison and I have traveled? Would you like to ask us just how we did it?

Therapies and techniques for working with children with autism are rampant, and this is not just another approach to solving the challenges of autism. It’s something else. It’s about how to nurture the blossom from a deeper place of honor for your child’s heart. It’s about a quantum leap in insight and understanding that you can take that has the potential to open an unexpected door for your child.

Although Jaison doesn’t speak with his mouth, he typed a play called “Dreams Of An Autistic Playwright.” The play had a staged reading at Colorado University and has been performed by a community theater. We videotaped the performance and recently edited the footage into a DVD of the play. We invite you to see the DVD trailer for the play  and order the DVD here.

Jaison also wrote the words to a song is called “Imagine You!”.  Listen here.

This blog will be a place where we share many things. But first we will be sharing excerpts from the book that Jaison and I are writing about our journey called “More Than You Hoped For: The Unexpected Joy of Raising an Autistic Playwright. Please come along with us on this amazing journey!

10 thoughts on “Helping Your Child with Autism to Blossom!

  1. beingmepresently

    Hi. I’m very glad to meet you! Sounds like your son is amazing. My son, aged 4 is currently under referral for Autism so I’m just at the beginning of my journey. X

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    1. Hello Beingmepresently,

      I love your name! Being present is a huge key to finding the joy of raising a child such as your son. I would love to hear more about him and your journey!

      Did you see the link in the post to the movie trailer of the play? Did you get to listen to the song Jaison wrote? I would love your feedback.

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      1. beingmepresently

        Yes Sharon I thought it was amazing. What a beautiful song he wrote! I also work with adults with Autism – I don’t think I have seen anything done like this before. X

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      2. Hi Beingmepresently,

        We are thrilled you like it! Yes I haven’t seen anything else quite like his song either. Please feel free to share the song with your friends.

        I would love to hear what you thought of the DVD of the play. It’s new so feedback would be great!

        Sorry if this comment is in the wrong place. I couldn’t find reply button on your comment.

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  2. Connection is simply natural and beautiful in human beings, and not being able to connect or feel connection is creates intense tension. I have a 12 year old son in the autism spectrum, and I have found that maintaining a connection with myself, simply expressing the innate intimacy that feels natural to me with him in deep respect and understanding of his choices, without being compromised by the diagnosis, has deepened our relationship. Every day and every learning is another opportunity to be more present with myself and with each other, it is important to be real and sometimes life does feel vulnerable and it is important to allow myself to feel that and to express it honestly. Whether connection is reflected back in the way we expect it to be or not, it is there–felt–between human beings and in knowing this is so beautifully amazing.

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  3. Oh dear sister Adele,

    Looks like we came to Earth for similar purposes and our son’s are here to encourage us deeper into the lessons, farther into the journey to see the Heart of Life.

    Yes!!! The way you are describing your interactions with your son. Speaking from your heart with deep respect for his choices, I honor that.

    Loved when you said, “whether connection is reflected back in the way we expect or not.” Yes!!!

    If we can carry this type of connection that is not dependent on response that is one of the great gifts our sons with autistic bodies give us.

    That you listen so intimately to what your son is here to share with you, and the depth of love and honor you give him is evident in your words.

    So very pleased to meet you!

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  4. Thank you for sharing and spreading awareness in this beautifully written post. It is a topic very close to my heart. I know a couple of dear autistic children, and a lot more with Asperger’s syndrome (a mild version). They are often the most loving, forgiving an accepting children of all.

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